work better and happier
I like to start every coaching session with celebrations—whether it’s a one-on-one coaching session or a group planning session.
My hard-working clients get thrown off initially because they are there to “solve a problem,” but it’s one of the most important habits I can seed for my clients.
When I have clients reflect on celebrations and wins and why they were meaningful to them, it’s for 2 reasons:
Most hard-workers and achievers don’t realize how much they have accomplished
I want them to set goals they really care about and that add value—not just to be productive
During a recent quarterly planning session, I asked the group to connect their typical to-do’s and which ones led to the outcomes they value. I have them do this because it’s important to have systems that help you achieve your goals; but not just any systems—ones that are based on how you are uniquely designed.
In my Natural Framework, “UR” stands for Your Design, and not a lot of people have clarity on what really works for them.
For example, one participant shared that one of her biggest wins was managing and planning for a big group. She realized it was successful because she led and made decisions on the activities and other details when, normally, she would try to get a consensus which never worked.
By starting with celebrations, we are taking in the good, which acts as preventative care for hardship.
Our brains are designed for negativity bias, so even if I help my clients reach their goals, if they don’t wire their brain to “take it in,” nothing they do will be enough and they won’t receive the full benefit.
Now it’s your turn…
Take some time to reflect on what to-do’s led to your biggest wins last year and how you can implement that more in your systems for achieving goals.
Going a step further, I encourage you to take some time at the end of every night and write down 3 things that happened that day that made you proud of yourself.
It can be big or small, internal or external. What’s most important is that it’s genuine, not a should. For example:
I questioned negative feedback instead of beating myself up
I went for a walk even-though I had a to-do list that was a mile long
Bonus points if you partner up with a celebration buddy and witness one another—this is especially important if you have people-pleasing tendencies.
Use this energy to design work and life that is more natural to you and humanity.
It may be uncomfortable but that’s ok. You can do uncomfortable things. And if you really make this a habit, you will find yourself more resilient when life takes an inevitable downturn.
If you want to learn more about my Natural Framework, you can access it here: https://lnkd.in/eet-bAeq
